Tuesday, October 22, 2024

Robert E. Lee Cake - A Southern Favorite for Serious Citrus Lovers!

 

I made a Robert E. Lee cake many years ago, and it was one of the best cakes ever. It is a lemon-orange cake with optional coconut - I omitted the coconut, as my husband is a passionate hater of all things coconut, but I think you would just coat the sides of the cake with sweetened coconut flakes if you would care to include it.

Historical notes say that this cake was actually served to guests at the Lee home. It is a Southern classic, and rightly so. 

The original recipe that I found is no longer on the recipe website I used, so here is the recipe that I developed. Because I am a passionate citrus lover, I have included as much zest as humanly possible. When we served it, it was a big hit. However, it made only 16 small servings, so if you are baking for a crowd, double the recipe and use three pans instead of two.

For the frosting, I used a lemon ermine frosting - ermine frosting being a recent passion of mine. It is a less-common form of buttercream frosting that allows one to vary the amount of sugar in the frosting without negatively affecting the texture (as often happens with other frostings).



I have severely abbreviated the directions so that the recipe will fit on one page - let me know if you have any questions. You can highlight and print, or click on the page below to get a printable version from Google Drive.

Let me know what you think!


Robert E. Lee Cake

Day 1: (1) Make lemon curd, (2) make frosting base, (3) bake, slice, and freeze cake
Day 2: (1) Finish frosting, (2) ice cake

Lemon Curd

            ¾ cup lemon juice
            1 T. lemon zest (I use 2 T.)
            ¾ cup sugar
            3 eggs
            ½ cup unsalted butter, cubed

Heat all ingredients over medium heat until first bubbles appear and curd passes the spoon test, about 6 minutes. Cool, chill.

Lemon-Orange Ermine Frosting

            ¾ cup lemon juice + 2 T. lemon zest
            ¾ cup orange juice + 2 T. orange zest
            1 cup sugar
            6 T. flour
            1 ½ tsp. salt
            ½ tsp. vanilla
            3 sticks unsalted butter, room temp

Bring all but butter to boil; boil 1 minute while whisking. Remove from heat; add vanilla. Cool. Chill. To make frosting, this base must be either chilled or at least room temperature. When cooled, whip butter, then whip in base in several batches. Whip 3 minutes more.


Robert E. Lee Cake

            2 cups flour
            1 ½ tsp. baking powder
            1/8 tsp. salt
            8 eggs, separated
            1 cup sugar
            2 T. lemon zest + ¼ cup lemon juice
            ½ tsp. cream of tartar

Butter, flour/sugar, and line with waxed paper two 8” pans. (Double recipe for three 8” pans.) Mix flour, baking powder, salt. In another bowl beat yolks until frothy, about 2 minutes. Add sugar in three stages, beating til eggs are pale and smooth. Add juice, zest.

In another bowl, beat whites and cream of tartar to stiff peaks. Into yolk mixture fold: half flour mix, half whites, half flour mix, half whites. Pour into pans; bake 22-30 minutes. Cool. Slice layers into two layers each; wrap each in plastic wrap and freeze.

Each of the first three layers gets a frosting dam, then lemon curd. After adding the fourth layer, frost cake (either one step, or a crumb coat and final layer). Finish with shells/stars and lemon curd on top. 





Sunday, October 20, 2024

Summer Was Supposed to Be Slow and Relaxing, Right? (Books Lately, Spring 2024)


All through Easter and spring, I told myself that if I could just make it to July, things would surely calm down for at least a month and a half. Relaxation and rejuvenation, rest and restoration. Right?

But summer is over and harvest is done... and it never happened.

And now the year has started. 

I always define Michaelmas (September 29th) as the start of the crazy-busy fall-holiday season, but the truth is that things start to heat up beginning to mid-August. And fall is certainly in full season now!

(Despite the fact that it was 113 here yesterday. No matter, I'm wearing a sweater to church anyway. Because it is fall.)

Why was summer so crazy? 

Part of it is that June is our crazy birthday season - five birthdays, plus Mother's Day, Father's Day, our anniversary, and Independence Day - within a six-week period. Add in a family vacation (translation - two months of packing!), swim lessons, and regular school, and that makes for a pretty full season. 

All that to say...

Happy Autumn!

And may your beginning of the school year season be a wonderful one! (And hopefully less crazy than ours has been.)

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There's an interesting moment when a mum realizes that her child is fully grown... and what's more, is smarter than she is, and considerably (on some issues) more well-informed. 

Surprising, but pleasant!

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There are also amusing moments. 

Child during High School: "I am never going to college. Never. Not in a million years. You couldn't convince me, make me, or get me into college in any way, shape, or form."

Me: "Well, okay. I guess that saves some trouble with SATs, etc." 

Child after High School: "Mom, I'm going to college! Where are my SAT scores?"

Me: "Ummm...."

The moral of the story is that I should have insisted on college-prep items such as the SAT despite said child's insistence that college was a no-go. It would have saved considerable trouble.

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Our neighborhood has witnessed a distressing set of circumstances in which both members of a two-person household died suddenly, unexpectedly, and tragically - six months apart from each other. In your charity, would you say a prayer for their families?

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This fall has held a sudden cancer diagnosis for my mother - and of a cancer that is aggressive, invasive, and hard to beat. Initial treatment included surgery this past week, with follow-up treatment (chemotherapy and radiation) to begin after recovery. This is not exactly the way that my mum wanted to spend the first year-anniversary of my father's death from cancer.

Please say a prayer for my mother, as well!

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This past week I spent the entire day (16 hours) at the hospital with my mother while she had surgery.

Translation: My husband had charge of the children for the entire day.

What I did in advance: Wrote out the children's lesson assignments, prepared meals, and sent texts to my husband with meal lists and etc.

What actually happened: Lesson books weren't cracked, the kids spent double-digit hours in front of the TV, and for meals they went out for pizza.

After I got finished alternately sighing and laughing - let me be honest, the above was not a surprise - I told my husband that if I ever die before the children are grown, to please enroll them in school and re-marry - preferably within 24 hours. 

Seriously, y'all. The household goes down fast when I am not around. I don't like to think of myself as essential. I'd rather have the type of family where kids take over the household, and things continue smoothly without me. 

(I have heard of families like this! They do exist!)

But we're not that kind of family. I do pray that God lets me live long enough to raise these kiddos - and if not, that my husband is able to remarry quickly!

Perhaps these reflections are a bit macabre. But I do worry. 

Mamas out there, I'd love to hear - how do your families manage when you're either gone or down? 

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Speaking of crazy things in houses.

Wood laminate flooring. 

It is evil. 

When we moved into our new house, one of the great beauty points of the home was the gorgeous wood laminate kitchen floor. I was in love.

Now, just a bit more than two years later, the wood laminate flooring is crumbling to bits before my eyes. 

Under the previous owners - a lovely sweet, quiet, childless middle-aged couple who treated their house with exquisite gentleness, the floor was in perfect condition. But under our family's use - constant foot traffic, constant cooking and washing up, non-stop spills and splatters, and (even though utterly forbidden!) roller skates and etc., the floor is literally coming to pieces. It's excruciatingly painful to watch.

Thus, if you're seeking inner peace, nirvana, the next spiritual level, etc., the first step is this:

Never buy wood laminate flooring.

Because wood laminate flooring is the way to ruin and despair.

(Unless they've really improved the stuff in the past twenty years.)


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I have finished the "rough draft of the rough draft" of my K-8 Read-in-Order Booklist. (I will extend this to K-12 after the K-8 is finally finished.) Now for endless revisions. 

I will make the list available from this blog when it is finished.


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I can hardly believe that Christmas is just around the corner! Seriously! I am already thinking about starting to lay in supplies for the holiday season! How did this happen?

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And now, let's have some books!

* Note: Because I have so many projects underway (namely, Christmas card notes + my booklist project), I am skipping book cover pictures. My comments may also be briefer. 


Trying to be like Daddy. (The wood laminate flooring looks a lot better in this picture than it does in person.)


Children & Teens: Picture Books

None this month! (Actually, lots. But I'm strapped for time, y'all. Maybe next month.)


Children & Teens: Chapter Books

The Cricket in Times Square (George Selden, 1960, children’s fiction/fantasy) – This is the first time that I've read this to our current set of children, and it is a hit. Did you know that it is also a series? I've never read any other books in the series, but I'd like to try them sometime. This book remains a perennial classic.

The Island of Adventure (Adventure series #1 of 8, Enid Blyton, 1944, children’s fiction) – I discovered this series about 5-10 years ago and absolutely adore it. Four children who go on adventures, with minimal adult involvement and real danger - lovely. My only complaint is non-stop sibling bickering (of the "shut up!" "no, you shut up!" ilk), and so I do a lot of on-the-fly editing when I am reading it aloud. However, it does make me feel better to know that my children are not the only ones who bicker. (Not that I'm not working on it.)

The Thrifty Guide to the American Revolution: A Handy Guide for Time Travelers (The Thrifty Guide series, Jonathan W. Stokes, 2018, history) There are three books in this series (American Revolution, Ancient Greece, Ancient Rome), and I love them all. Funny, informative, and relatively little political correctness - what's not to love?

Moffat Museum (Moffats series #4 of 4 by Eleanor Estes, 1983, children’s realistic fiction) – I adore the Moffats. Slow-paced, real life, early twentieth-century Americana - oh, yes! I have to admit that these books are sometimes a bit slow even for my taste, but they have a gentle, relaxed feeling that is absolutely delightful. They're also a wonderful vessel for learning about life in the early 1900s (gas lighting, coal heat, the last of the horse-drawn vehicles), and also about life under impoverished yet still joyful circumstances. Recommended!

Coal Camp Girl and Houseboat Girl (American Regional series, Lois Lenski, 1959, children’s realistic fiction) – When I fell in love with "Strawberry Girl," I was thrilled to learn that it was one of an entire series that Lenski penned about girls in different regions of rural America. These are two more of the series. I'll be honest - I didn't care for either of them. I found them dull, and more of the "let's write an educational series" type than the amazing classic literature type (like "Strawberry"). However, in speaking to a fellow book-loving mama friend of mine, she mentioned that she absolutely adored both of these as a child. So give them a chance, and let me know what you think of them! 

Percy Jackson and the Olympians: The Lightning Thief (Percy Jackson and the Olympians #1 of 5, Rick Riordan, 2005, children’s fantasy) - Earlier this summer, we were invited to a Percy Jackson party. My kids: "What's Percy Jackson?" By the end of the party, they were in love, and were begging to read the series. With some misgivings, I gave in. I have since minorly questioned my decision, but on the whole, we love Percy Jackson. This book series is an amazing way to learn Greek mythology (which I strongly believe is necessary for a good education in Western thought), and the author is astoundingly skilled at translating the world of Greek mythology into the modern world - and does so with both flair and humor. There are a couple of things I'm not crazy about, but on the whole, this series is amazing. Feel free to leave any questions (and do pre-read). 

* Note: The one-season show based on this series is quite good. (Season 2 is in production.) I have heard that the movie version is not as good. 

John Treegate’s Musket and Peter Treegate’s War (Treegate series #1 and #2, Leonard Wibberly, 1959, teen realistic fiction) - How did I miss this series? It is a tremendously well-written series (by an Englishman, no less!) centered on the Revolutionary War. It is a must-have for any study of the Revolution, and I intend to collect the whole series. Highly recommended. 


Books for Teens & Adults:

Jesus the Bridegroom: The Greatest Love Story Ever Told (Brant Pitre, 2014, theology) - A discussion of the portrayal of Jesus as a bridegroom to his bride, the church, with the day of his crucifixion being his "wedding day." I read this as a follow-up to the masterful, must-read Jesus and the Jewish Roots of the Eucharist, and I was not disappointed. Highly recommended, and another illustration of that timeless saying, anything by Brant Pitre is worth reading. 

A Bloody Habit (Eleanor Bourg Nicholson, 2018, fiction-fantasy) - A "sequel" to Stoker's Dracula, which is one of my favorite novels. (I am not into modern vampire fiction/films, most of which are disgusting, sexualized, and verge into the glorification of vampirism. Rather, Stoker's original work was about the basic struggle between good and evil, and the fight of good men to preserve the honor of a good woman.) The book is excellently written in late Victorian style, with an engaging story and interesting characters. Hands down, my favorite part of the book is the "vampire hunter" character - a quiet Dominican friar who, as another has noted, is the perfect blend of Stoker's Van Helsing and Chesterton's Father Brown. (May I say that I hope we see more of this character in future works?) My one disappointment was the ending sequences, which are confusingly action-packed, to the point where in both readings I forgot what exactly was supposed to be happening. However, the excellence of the book more than makes up for that. Highly recommended!

With God in Russia: The Inspiring Classic Account of a Catholic Priest's Twenty-three Years in Soviet Prisons and Labor Camps (Walter J. Ciszek, 1964, autobiography) - Recommended to me by a friend. This book tells of an underground missionary priest's arrest by Soviets, and his subsequent imprisonment, solitary confinement, interrogations, torture, sentencing to slave labor camps in Siberia, his time in those camps, and the years following his release (he was eventually repatriated to the United States). Highly recommended. Good companion books for the study of Communism - extremely important to both students and adults alike, as the woke worldview is a new form of Communism - are Red Scarf Girl: A Memoir of the Cultural Revolution and Calvary in China.

He Leadeth Me: An Extraordinary Testament of Faith (Walter J. Ciszek, 1973, autobiography + spiritual) - This book is the follow-up to "With God in Russia" - the author's later reflections on the topic of suffering from a spiritual perspective. This book is so incredibly good that I haven't finished it - a certain way in, I knew that I needed my own copy, so I returned it to the friend who had lent it, and ordered my own. I haven't gotten back to it yet, but will. (I find that this is often the case with the best books - I am so overwhelmed by their awesomeness that I have to pause to take it all in, and often have a hard time actually getting through the entire book.) May I say - highly recommended. 

Dorothy and Jack: The Transforming Friendship of Dorothy L. Sayers and C. S. Lewis (Gina Dalfonzo, 2020, biography) - Did you know that Dorothy Sayers (the mystery author) and C. S. Lewis (the great Anglican theologian) were friends? I certainly didn't. (And until a couple of years ago, I had never even heard of Dorothy Sayers!) But apparently they were, and this book examines their friendship, mostly conducted (if I'm remembering rightly) through letters and the occasional visit. In all honesty, this wasn't my favorite book. A disproportionate percentage of it seemed to be devoted to showing how Dorothy Sayers "enlightened" C. S. Lewis with regard to women's rights, and brought him up to date with more modern feminist views. (I certainly hope this was not the case.) But regardless, it was an interesting little book, though not overwhelmingly fascinating. 

And speaking of Dorothy Sayers, I read two of Sayers' Lord Peter Wimsey mystery novels during this quarter. At this point I can barely remember them, though I know that the second was literally a honeymoon story. I do enjoy Sayers' mystery novels very much, though not as much as Agatha Christie novels. I enjoy the character of Lord Peter Wimsey very much, and I also love the English setting and early twentieth century time period. I usually do not find that there is a great AHA! moment in Sayer novels when discovering the identity of the killer, as there is with Christie novels - usually I just enjoy the story but find relatively little interest in the eventual solving of the case. But the novels are very enjoyable, and I would definitely include them in a perusal of British literature, especially in learning about the development of the modern detective novel. 

Strong Poison: A Lord Peter Wimsey and Harriet Vane Mystery (Dorothy Sayers, 1930, mystery)

Busman’s Honeymoon (Dorothy Sayers, 1937, mystery)


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Friends, I would love to hear what you've been reading! Leave a comment and let me know!

A candid shot of our crazed roof-dwelling cat. She is such a darling.

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In the Kitchen

Lots of recipes this month!

I adore baked oatmeal, and this Brownie Baked Oatmeal is a keeper. (I don't keep flaxseed on hand at the moment, so I used all oatmeal.)

It's summer (or at least it was), and thus... ice cream! Here are a few recipes we've loved this summer:

With the first three recipes above, we skip the food coloring and reduce the sugar by at least one-quarter. 

We also tried a new ice-cream adventure this year - no-churn ice cream. So fun! I was shocked that ice cream could actually turn out well without being churned, but it certainly did - this Cookies & Cream (Oreo) Ice Cream was a huge hit with the family. My one criticism of it was that I personally found it too sweet, and with it being made with condensed milk, there's no way to reduce the sugar. However, it was still an amazing recipe (and no one but me objected to the sweetness level). 

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Other recipes:

I tried this Flourless Apple Bread last night. It is moist and has a good consistency. Due to the fact that I tried it with peanut butter (rather than almond butter) it tasted far too much of peanut butter (there actually is such a thing, it turns out) - but I think that if I had used almond butter (or perhaps cashew) the flavor would have been better. If made with Swerve brown sugar substitute, this would make a great gift for a diabetic (or other paleo/AIP dieter). 

Simple Lemon Chicken Sauce - delightful. I used it with Hawaiian Haystacks, and it was an improvement on the original sauce. 

I am currently in love with ermine frosting - an almost entirely unknown genre of frosting that allows the cook to drastically reduce sugar levels in frosting without compromising texture (as happens in American buttercreams). I recently tried this Lemon Ermine Frosting - and used it to make a Robert E. Lee cake (recipe coming soon). It was absolutely delightful. 

Lemon ermine-frosted Robert E. Lee cake for our 15yo's recent birthday. (The shiny stuff on the top is lemon curd.) It was an enormous hit. 


I recently tried an entirely new recipe - Amish Bob Andy Pie. Anyone out there who has tried this wonderful pie? In trying to describe "what is it?" to neighbors, I realized at last that it is basically pumpkin pie... without the pumpkin. That sounds dreadful, but it is actually a wonderful pie, and the whole family (and our neighbors!) loved it. I reduced the sugar from 1 cup to 2/3 cup, and next time will cut it down to 1/2 cup. (I find that 1/2 cup of sugar is a good base level for pies.) Let me know what you think! 

Easy Keto Brownies - I have made these for a birthday present for a family member, and for our church staff. It's been a hit! 


And two don't-miss recipes for autumn - Apple Fritters and Autumn (Apple) Pancakes - both from the website Raising Arrows. We made both recipes this past weekend! 

A perpetual favorite - Make-Ahead Mashed Potatoes. I use this to reduce stress on holidays, and I've recently started taking this to people when I take meals. It's a keeper!

A meal-taking idea! Macaroni and cheese is a great meal to take to families with kiddos, but the dish doesn't usually sit well. The solution - make and cool the pasta (and stir in some oil to keep it from sticking), and make and cool the sauce. Then store both in separate plastic freezer bags, and deliver them to the family for whom you are cooking. The family can combine the pasta and sauce and heat on the stove. 

I have considered starting another blog to tackle the topic of taking meals to families, because I love it so very, very much. But as I can't even keep up with one post quarterly on this blog, I think the idea will have to wait. Or I'll just write a book on the subject in retirement! Look for it another thirty years or so!


Liturgical Year

In the past five or so years, we have started celebrating Michaelmas (feast of St. Michael the Archangel and all angels), which falls on September 29th. It is a lovely holiday, and for me is the true beginning of the autumn season. 

Read the history of Michaelmas here

Here is our Michaelmas menu:

            Roast chicken (should be a goose, but, um, a chicken will do)
            Mashed potatoes
            Candied carrots
            Michaelmas bannock
            Soul (or "soal") cakes

Soul cakes are a new venture for us this year, and they were a huge success - more successful, I am afraid, than the Michaelmas bannock. 

For music, try Peter, Paul and Mary's A Soalin' (Hey, Ho, Nobody Home). You can hear a beautiful rendition of a song mentioning these here: Hey, Ho, Nobody Home. (I loved this song so much that I bought the sheet music for our family.)

(Seriously! Don't miss this music! So beautiful.)


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Okay, y'all - I have so much more to say, and no time to say it. Thus, know that I think of my readers often, and that I hope and pray you are all well and that you're having a wonderful autumn season.

Happy Michaelmas, and Happy Fall! Pray for me, as I pray for you!




Sunday, September 8, 2024

My Homeschool Curriculum Plans for 2024-2025

 

This year we have a 6th grader, a 4th grader, and a 1st grader. (Plus one graduate, one child with special needs, and one toddler.) 

We are currently four months into our school year. With the insane heat levels here in Arizona, I have made it our practice to start our school year the first week in May, when the nasty heat really starts, and we take our times off during the nicer parts of the year (a longer break at Christmas, a six-week "summer" break in March-April, and one week off per seven weeks throughout the year). It works well for us. 

My current goals are to eliminate all non-essentials, and to simplify wherever possible - whether with school work, our schedule, housework, meals, etc. Having experienced full-blown homeschool burnout at least twice, going in for round #3 is not on my things-to-do list. With that in mind, here's what we're doing this year:

Family Time

* Our morning time includes the following:

  • Bible reading
  • Weekly Catechism + one Bible verse for memorizing
  • A weekly poem and coloring sheet to go along with it
  • History
    • We listen to a chapter of Story of the World and discuss it, and I provide loads of library books on the topics covered. 
    • We listen to a saint story - currently we are using Journeys With the Saints.
    • We also listen to one episode of The Saints podcast from The Merry Beggars - this is something new this year that has been a wonderful blessing - the children love this show. Our current saint is Maximilian Kolbe, the martyr-saint of Auschwitz.
  • Singing time, which usually includes one of each of the following:
    • Hymn
    • Christmas song - there are too many Christmas songs to complete during Christmas only! 
    • Folk song
    • And sometimes a round - we're working on "Dona Nobis Pacem" right now. A great source for family singing is the Appendix in "Around the Year With the Trapp Family" by Maria Trapp.
  • History video time
    • I choose YouTube videos (preferably of live performances) of one hymn or sacred piece, one classical piece, and one folk song. We watch them once a day until we get tired of them, which is usually about two weeks. I then add the songs to a playlist, and at the end of the year we have a lovely music compilation. I use these playlists as ambient music during free parts of our day so that we can continue to learn and enjoy the songs.
    • To see an example of a year's compilation, here is last year's: 2023-2024 Music Playlist
  • Read-aloud time of a novel 


Individual Work

6th Grade

Language Arts - The Good and the Beautiful Language Arts (Grade 6) + The Good and the Beautiful Handwriting (Grade 6)
Math - Christian Light Math (Grade 5) - Why Grade 5? See comment below under Curriculum Notes: Math
Science - Seton Science (Grade 6), which includes Earth Science and Space Science
History - Story of the World, Year 1: Ancient History


4th Grade

Language Arts - The Good and the Beautiful (Grade 4) + The Good and the Beautiful Handwriting (Grade 6)
Math - Christian Light Math (Grade 4)
Science - Seton Science (Grade 4) 
History - Story of the World, Year 1: Ancient History


1st Grade

Language Arts - The Good and the Beautiful Language Arts (Grade 1), plus supplemental learning-to-read work with Rocket Phonics + The Good and the Beautiful Handwriting (Grade 1)
Math - Christian Light Math (Grade 1, second half)*
History - Story of the World, Year 1: Ancient History


* Christian Light does not have a Kindergarten math level, so we split their Grade 1 math into two years - half for Kindergarten, and half for first grade. This gives us the ability to have a more relaxed pace (half a lesson per day) in Kindergarten, and also slows the pace a bit, as Christian Light's 1st grade math is a rather long course. 

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Notes on Curriculum Choices

Note: I have long had a policy of not writing any negatives about curriculum that I review. However, I have come to realize that a curriculum review cannot be honest and balanced unless I list what I liked and what I didn't like. Thus, with these reviews, I will cautiously note things about a curriculum that I did not care for. However, I hope to do so in a spirit of charity.


Language Arts

Christian Light Language Arts, Christian Light Reading

For many years, we used and loved Christian Light's Language Arts program (which covers grammar, spelling, and a bit of composition) and Christian Light's Reading program (which covers literature and literary analysis).

For the sake of brevity, I will refer to the two of these two programs together as Christian Light's Language Arts program. Usually parents will want to include both of these programs together for their children, as they cover different facets of English/Language Arts. 

These programs are incredibly well-written and edited, and if you want a solid Language Arts curriculum, you can't do better. Here are some of things that we love about Christian Light Language Arts:

  • It is thoroughly Christian and teaches a Christian worldview, Christian ethics, and positive and healthy family values.
  • The artwork is gentle, beautiful, and incredibly well-done.
  • The monochromatic color scheme (i.e. just one color) feels calming and enables a student to focus, rather than being distracted by a bunch of bright flashy colors.
  • Christian Light goes deeply into grammar, enabling a deep understanding of the English language (and allowing me to correct the myriad of deficiencies of my own public school education).
  • The lessons are not super-long - they are totally doable without discouraging a child with the length of time it takes to complete a lesson.
  • Because Christian Light is a well-established curriculum that has been extensively reviewed and has published several editions, the end-result is flawless in its composition (unlike many newer or self-published curricula). 

However, last year we made the decision to stop using Christian Light Language Arts. This was primarily a philosophical-theological motivation. Christian Light is a Mennonite company, meaning that it promotes an Anabaptist theology, ethic, and view of history. The material promotes the Anabaptist view of history, which is that the Anabaptists were correct against all of the other forms of Christianity during the Reformation and after (i.e. Catholics and Reformers), who are shown to be wrong, misguided, and sometimes evil. Our family simply does not support this view. 

Secondly, Anabaptists are passionate pacifists and non-participationists. They believe that it is morally wrong to serve in the military, fight in a war (even in a righteous cause or in a war of self-defense), defend oneself, prosecute a crime or help to bring criminals to justice, vote, or hold public office. Our family disagrees passionately with each and every one of these distinctives. And when we used this curriculum (both Language Arts and Reading curriculum) with our eldest, I had to constantly stop and say, "Okay, this story is teaching pacifism or Anabaptist worldview in such-and-such a way. Look at the way this story is crafted to promote this worldview.") In a way, this had a very happy ending, because our eldest is now a passionate anti-pacifist who can spot pacifist propaganda a mile away. But I did not feel like going through this over and over again with each of our children.

On a practical level, Christian Light Language Arts tends to be overly heavy on grammar - and I say this as a joyful grammar nerd who would happily spend the rest of her life diagramming sentences - and overly light on writing. If you select Christian Light, you may want to add a writing curriculum alongside it, at least in the K-8 years. (You could go either way.)

On a minor note, I also found that Christian Light's Reading program (separate from their Language Arts program, and which covers K-8th grade), which is in general an excellent program (besides the pacifist issue), tended toward moralistic tales (i.e. "Little Johnny learns not to hit his sister") rather than truly excellent classic literature. I appreciate moral tales, and we all need them - goodness knows, my children do - but I do not believe that this should come at the expense of reading really amazing classic literature.

In short, if you want a Language Arts curriculum (or Reading curriculum), you cannot do better than Christian Light. If you are already an Anabaptist or a Christian with pacifist leanings, the material will pose no worldview problems for you. If, however, you are a non-pacifist Christian, you will have a lot of 'splainin' to do. You will have to judge if you want to choose that path.


The Good and the Beautiful Language Arts

I have known about The Good and the Beautiful curriculum for many years, and have wanted to try it out. When we decided that we needed a new Language Arts curriculum, The Good and the Beautiful (GAB) was a natural choice.

The Good and the Beautiful is written by an LDS mom and her team. However, it is not an LDS curriculum. GAB curriculum is written to be accessible by anyone claiming the title of Christian - all (or at least a majority) spiritual and ethical values are going to be cross-denominational. There are no doctrinal distinctives - no saints or Eucharist for Catholics, no Joseph Smith for Mormons, no Calvinist doctrine for Reformers. It basically follows a "read your Bible, follow Jesus, obey Christian ethical principles" mantra. If anything, it follows what would be considered a non-denom Baptist ethos ("give your heart to Jesus and read your Bible a lot!"). But whatever type of Christian you consider yourself, you will most likely not have a problem with GAB curriculum (unless you are seriously hardcore about your curriculum promoting your particular doctrinal distinctives, in which case GAB may not be for you).

Last year, we used GAB Language Arts for grades K, 3, and 5. Here are the things that we loved:

  • The Good and the Beautiful promotes a Christian worldview and Christian ethics. It is also very pointed about promoting literature that is "good and beautiful," and not consuming books or media that will poison or corrupt our souls or morals. Bravo, Good and Beautiful staff.
  • GAB Language Arts contains all of the Language Arts subjects (grammar, spelling, composition, reading skills, literature), so you will not need to add spelling or writing curriculum (a prospect that, with other curricula, has always horrified me - you mean there's another thing that we have to do???). The only English subject that is not covered is penmanship, which you can easily add by adding a GAB handwriting book into the mix (available by graded levels from their website).
  • GAB Language Arts also covers a number of other subjects, including geography, art, art history, and art appreciation. What, you mean they're saving me time in not having to teach those other subjects too? Yes, please!
  • The classic artwork included in GAB Language Arts is insanely beautiful, and at the same time highly educational. I love-love-love the art component of GAB curriculum.
  • The illustrations done by GAB staff are also beautiful and fun (their illustrations can sometimes veer into cartoonish, but usually they are quite good). 
  • The kindergarten curriculum comes with fun "school-time" art/grammar projects that require zero prep work and usually not more than a glue stick and a pair of scissors. This has really helped cut down on my "my child is missing so much by not being in school" guilt. 
  • The literature selections are, on the whole, excellent (see below for a comment on that). Books that we have loved so far are "Chico of the Andes," "Lost at Sea," "The Belgian Twins," and "Marjorie."
  • A BIG plus is that the Good and the Beautiful uses a 120-day year, which is much less than the 160-180-day years that many curricula use. As a homeschooler for many years, I can say with confidence that education is not just about sitting and doing lessons. While doing lessons is important, days of field trips, travel, ministry, and support-group outings are just as important - possibly more important - and it is wonderful to be able to have a shorter, more workable school year that doesn't penalize families for having outside-the-home school days, or create the "I'd like to go on such-and-such a field trip, but that would put us another day behind with lessons" quandary, or the misery of "We're so behind, and we'll never-ever-ever be able to catch up." (I've been in both positions.)
Now, for a few downsides:
  • Because Christian Light is such an amazing teacher of grammar, and I have learned from them for something like fifteen years, I often prefer Christian Light's methods of teaching grammar, which are often clearer and easier to learn. I find myself often saying "the directions say such-and-such, but I am changing that to such-and-such."
  • The art projects have written directions, and I think that they would do better with video directions - which, I realize, would take considerably more time and money to produce. Good and Beautiful staff, an idea for the future?
  • GAB Language Arts curriculum utilizes both classic literature selections and staff-written readers. We infinitely prefer the classic literature selections (with the exception of "Timothy of the Tenth Floor," which my 9yo and I both enjoyed). We would prefer that GAB staff utilize classic literature (like those books mentioned above) instead of in-house material. 
  • To do the lessons completely, you will need an iPad or some type of touch screen that can handle an app. At first, I was quite frustrated about this, as I am an anti-screen Luddite who really prefers no extras with her curricula. However, I was pleasantly surprised - the GAB app is really excellent, and I have enjoyed using it. As our iPad is currently broken, we are having to forego the app for a few months, and the curriculum is doable (though incomplete) without the app.
    • However, the use of a portable screen comes with the usual problems. "Hmm, I sent Child A to listen to the Letter Sounds app, and I haven't seen him since. Oh, that's because he watched the Letter Sounds app and then transitioned into watching an hour of Dude Perfect while I was distracted. Argh." So if you're going to use the app, make sure that you have screen safety software installed, and that screens are used in a public area where you won't forget about them like I do. 


All but the cardinal painting are Good and Beautiful Language Arts art assignments,
completed by our nine- and twelve-year-olds. 


Phonics (Learning-to-Read Curriculum)

For many years, we have taught our children to read using Rocket Phonics. (I tried Christian Light's Learning to Read program once, and did not care for it - it was excellent, but extremely time-consuming.) This past year, we used The Good and the Beautiful's phonics program contained in its kindergarten Language Arts. It is quite good. However, about halfway through the year, I decided to go back to Rocket Phonics, because I just love it so very much. (Despite its unpleasant artwork.) Thus, we are using Rocket Phonics alongside The Good and the Beautiful's Language Arts, and it has been a happy melding.


Math


Christian Light Math

For the first two years of our homeschool journey, we used a math-curriculum-which-shall-not-be-named - and which I still remember with the utmost loathing. I say no more.

After those two miserable years, I switched to Christian Light math, and have been happy ever since. Christian Light has an amazing math program that is truly top-notch. I have no reservations in saying that it is the best math curriculum that I have ever seen, and I recommend it with my whole heart.

Additionally, Christian Light math has none of the worldview issues (i.e. Anabaptist theology & pacifism) that caused us to abandon their Language Arts and Reading curriculum. 

Here are some things that we love about Christian Light math:

  • Monochromatic color scheme (which, as mentioned above, is calming and encourages focus)
  • Lessons written simply and clearly
  • Lessons are incremental - one tiny new fact is introduced with each lesson, but often it is something really easy and simple, that makes forward progress easy rather than lessons in which one has to make huge jumps.
  • Each lesson book has a theme, such as "Life in Ireland," "Life in Romania," "Running a Sewing Shop," "Running a landscape business." Each lesson and word problem is centered around the book's theme, and there is often a lot of great information learned besides math!
  • The curriculum (in its written sections and word problems) has an intense focus on healthy Christian family life and good Christian ethics. 
  • Because this is a non-screen subject, it keeps kids off the computer. Huzzah!

The few downsides:
  • The lessons are often - in my opinion - too long, and this is a problem that gets worse with each grade level. I would prefer shorter lessons. Christian Light staff, if you're listening - shorter lessons, please!
  • Children often need a lot of help with lessons, and there is also the correcting of the lessons, which, as this is not a computer program, has to be done either by the parent (more work!) or by the student (in which case the parent has to check up on the student, which means, again, more work). In short, there can be a lot of work involved.
  • Christian Light has a 170-day school year. In my mind, this is entirely too long. (I know that they do this because Christian Light curricula is used by many Christian schools, who have to have enough lessons to follow state standards.) By cutting out the one obviously non-essential lesson at the back of each book, you can cut it down to 160 days. By cutting out quizzes (2 per book), you can lower it to 140 days. This is still too long, to my mind, but is a bit more doable. (You could cut it to 130 days by cutting out the end-of-book tests, but those tests are useful assessments, so I hesitate to do that.)

Teaching Textbooks Math

After many years of using Christian Light math, we had a two-year hiatus. One year of using a really crummy math curriculum (it's a long story - I'll tell it sometime), and one year of Teaching Textbooks. I switched to Teaching Textbooks because I was stressed and overwhelmed with the non-stop responsibilities of homeschooling, and needed the computer to take over some of the responsibilities. Teaching Textbooks is an excellent program, and is probably the most popular homeschool math curriculum at present. It is available for third grade through Algebra 2.

Here are a few things that we loved about Teaching Textbooks:

  • Teaching Textbooks teaches the lessons, sets the problems, and does all of the grading and record-keeping. SCORE.
  • TT does a great job of teaching. It's a great curriculum, and I have no hesitation in recommending it.
Now, a few downsides:
  • Because the kids are on the computer, there is a greater possibility for dishonesty (hello, online calculator). I am embarrassed to say that I have had a bit of this in our family. If you use TT, you still need to keep an eye on your kids.
  • Ditto with the issue of being on the computer enabling "wandering" - i.e. Child A is supposed to be doing math, but is really watching YouTube videos. (And a note, YouTube is not a safe place for children to wander.) If you use TT, it is wise to turn off your internet (TT always has the ability to work offline for a couple of lessons before needing internet enabled), or to block sites like YouTube or whatever other sites are a temptation for your child.
    • Because I never remember to do any of the above, a pen-and-paper curriculum is probably better for us. 
  • Because the computer is doing the teaching, a homeschool mom does not learn alongside her child. If your math skills are weak, you may not be able to help your child when he/she needs help - which does still happen.
  • TT is a secular curriculum, meaning that there are no positive family values or Christian ethics taught with the lessons. 
  • The one serious criticism that I have heard leveled against Teaching Textbooks is that it is not as rigorous as other curricula, and possibly not rigorous enough to produce students who are able to handle college math. I do not know for sure if this is true, but there may be some truth to the accusation. (See my additional comment below.) However, I do not consider this a serious problem, as most people do not need hardcore upper math skills - what they need are the basics, well-learned. For myself, I went through college maths, but have never used anything beyond elementary algebra and/or geometry skills in real life. This does not mean that higher level math is useless, because it teaches two essential skills: (1) abstract reasoning, and (2) self-discipline. But I think that Teaching Textbooks is a fine curriculum for any student, with the exception perhaps of students who may be heading into math-heavy careers.
Now, one final comment. This past year, I decided to transition our family from Teaching Textbooks math back to Christian Light math, mostly due to wanting to be more involved with our children's learning, and also wishing to have less screen time (and less internet wandering) for our children. With our 8yo, transitioning from 3rd grade Teaching Textbooks to 4th grade Christian Light math was a hard transition, but a doable one.

However, for our 12yo, transitioning from finishing 5th grade Teaching Textbooks math to starting 6th grade Christian Light math was like hitting a brick wall. We didn't make it past the first problem in the first book of the year before realizing that our student had not learned the skills that would make 6th grade Christian Light math possible. At this point, we are looking at having to back him up an entire year to 5th grade Christian Light math to make the transition, and he will still be behind. (*Note: This is what we ended up doing.)

Perhaps Christian Light math is unusually rigorous. I don't know. (Readers, fill me in?) But it's definitely going to be a rough transition.

All in all, I can recommend both Christian Light math and Teaching Textbooks math (though with a preference for Christian Light). My current plan is to keep our elementary students with Christian Light math through 6th or 8th grade, and then let them go to Teaching Textbooks for upper level math.

I'll post in coming years about how we navigate the mathematics conundrum. 


Science

Seton Homeschool Science

We have used a lot of really bad science curricula - a boring-to-tears workbook curriculum, a hyper-pious Baptist curriculum, and an I-can't-believe-how-bad-this-is online curriculum. 

For the first time in our fifteen year homeschool journey, I have found an excellent science curriculum that I love - Seton Homeschool science.

Here's what I love about Seton science:

  • The books are well-written, well laid-out, and excellently illustrated. 
  • The Christian faith is excellently incorporated, while avoiding the sappy corniness that a lot of Baptist curricula fall into. 
  • The sections are a reasonable length and don't take that long to complete (perhaps 20 minutes a day).
  • Our two students, one of whom is a natural academic and one who finds school quite difficult, have both been able to handle doing the lessons independently with occasional help from me.
I don't know of any downsides to this curriculum - it is that excellent. The only complicating factor is that because it is a Catholic curriculum, any Christians who are anti-Catholic may find the material too Catholic for their tastes.

History

A Casual Approach to History with Story of the World 

We are doing history casually this year. I read the Bible as part of our morning time (and the Bible is an excellent history text), and we listen to one section of Story of the World. (We are doing Ancients this year - Year 1 - and we are using an audiobook version. This has lifted a bit of the reading burden from me, and allows me to clean the kitchen while we listen.)

Secondarily, I order all of the library books that I can find to go along with what we're listening to - and I have found that if one does this, children are basically self-educating maniacs. They spend most of their time coming up to me and saying, "Hey, Mom! Did you know that the Ancient Egyptians...." etc. It's really wonderful.

We are not using any of the extras with Story of the World this year - the coloring sheets, the comprehension questions, or the extra projects. I did all of those with our eldest the first round through the Story of the World four-book cycle, but it was - to be quite frank - a pain in the neck. And since we have enough of those types of things elsewhere in our curricula, I do not feel any need to add them in at this time. Basic instruction + non-stop reading books does a fine job. 

(Please be cautious with library books - there are a lot of modern children's books out there that have inappropriate or downright evil material in them. Pre-read always.)

We also include saint biography stories in our homeschool history - see the intro to this article for references and links. 


Extracurriculars

Our family activities outside of lessons include the following:

  • Sunday church and Sunday school
  • Mid-week church
  • Our church's kids' group
  • Altar server training group (for our boys)
  • Clogging (for all above the age of 9) 
  • Ballet (for our daughter)
  • Baseball (seasonal, for one of sons)
  • Piano lessons (for two of our children)
  • Children's choir (for three of our children - this one is tentative)
  • Historical reenactment work, as well as attendance at community dances, with a local group
  • Field trips, park days, seasonal events, and Mom's Nights Out with our church homeschooling group and two local homeschooling groups.  

I find that extracurriculars always have hidden costs:

Firstly, extracurriculars always have jobs for mum and dad to do at home. (I do extracurriculars in order to outsource, but the extracurriculars always throw more work back at me. Blast.) Sunday school and our church's children's group have homework and memory work. Ballet has practice exercises to do at home. Piano lessons have practice sessions to supervise. (And oh, am I being rewarded in spades for my own childhood unwillingness to practice!) Dance groups have costumes to launder and prepare, and all groups have paperwork and correspondence to take care of. 

Secondly, all extracurriculars come with extra stress - getting the family ready, in the car, out and back, etc. Disrupted schedules. Rushing. Stress. Less time at home. Irritable husbands. More messes. Less free time. 

Thus, if any extracurricular is going to find a place in our home, it really has to be worth the cost. 

We've made the over-extracurriculars mistake many times, and have had to pare back. It seems to be a cyclical thing. 

This year, for the sake of sheer amusement, I decided to keep a partial list of the homeschool extracurriculars that I wish we could do but can't (and the guilt of which keeps me awake at night - I am no stranger to homeschool guilt). Here they are:

  • Serious ballet for our daughter
  • Orchestra
  • Musical instrument lessons (other instruments)
  • All-day co-op
  • Another weekly co-op
  • Yet another co-op
  • Archery
  • Theatre
  • Sewing classes
  • Speech and Debate
  • Science co-op
  • Martial arts
  • Fencing
  • Serious children's choir
  • American Heritage Girls
  • Trail Life USA 
  • Our church's girls' and boys' group 
And many, many more!

But again, there are limits - and the limits are often lower than we think, if we want to maintain our homes, our marriages, and our sanity. I have had to learn this time and time again. 

I should add that in our family, my husband is the night-time running-kids-to-activities man. If it was all up to me, I would not be able to maintain as many extracurriculars as we do. In fact, I have had life-long issues with energy and stamina, besides being an introvert, and have had to accept that I have less energy and social stamina than most women. So our extracurricular list is much lower than many women I know (I know a lot of amazing women). 


My Personal Life This Year

My non-school personal projects this year include the following:

  • Working on the spiritual virtue of contentment. This one has always been very difficult for me, but I think I am making progress - though lots more is needed.
  • I am working on a graded read-in-order Literature & History booklist. I am just shy of finishing the list through the eighth grade, and when I do, I'll publish the preliminary version here - hopefully by Christmas (at the rate of 5-10 minutes per day, on a good day, which is almost never, the project is moving at a snail's pace). 
  • I continue always my love of voracious reading and in publishing brief book reviews to this blog. 
As always, my main focus is this - working well at the duties of state that God has given me in the here and now - that is, at being a Christian, wife, mother, homeschooler, and homemaker. And that is no little task. 

Concluding Thoughts

I'm not sure how long we've been homeschooling - well over ten years, and probably close to fifteen (I'll have to count it up sometime). Regardless of the exact numbers, it's been a long time. During that time, I've learned important lessons - primarily, that mothering and homeschooling are hard. If you're a homeschooler, be kind to yourself. Give yourself grace. And take care of yourself. The rates of homeschool burn-out and homeschool jumping ship are astronomically high. (I've been down both roads a number of times.) Don't feel badly if it happens to you, too. But to the best of your ability, take care of yourself. It's better to be behind than burned-out.

Readers, pray for me this homeschool year - and I'll be praying for you!

I am, as always, happy to answer questions!



Thursday, August 15, 2024

A Journey of Weight Loss (or the Lack Thereof)

 
I have a storied history with weight. I started out as a normal-weight baby and then toddler, transitioned to a very overweight child, and then lost it all and became a thinner-than-normal teen. 

Thus, I started adult life at a healthy weight. But it all went downhill from there.

Five pounds in college.
Five pounds in culinary school.
Five pounds with each baby.
Another five pounds this past year.

And, all in all, I found myself at a place in which I was way above the highest weight at which I felt at all comfortable. And after many, many years of "I'm not happy with my weight, but I'm too busy-tired-stressed to deal with it," I was finally ready to turn my attention to losing weight.

One year in, I'm happy to report that I've lost a total of....

Zero pounds

When I say "zero pounds," that's not actually true. Actually, I have lost a massive amount of weight - traveling up and down the scale within the same 7-8 pound range. But it has all come back. Yo-yo dieting in miniature, you might say. 

BUT

I have learned quite a bit. Firstly, about weight loss. I have learned that, for example:

(1) I do not lose weight easily. ("Mmm-hmm" says every woman in America.) Weight loss is a fight to the death. I should have realized this from my years of doing diets to test their efficacy in fighting morning sickness - even when doing extreme diets (Paleo, low-carb, keto), I really didn't lose much if any weight. The only time I lost a considerable amount of weight (20 pounds, if I remember correctly) was when I went dairy-free - and that weight, unfortunately, stayed gone for only about six months before it crept right back.

(2) However, I can gain weight extremely easily! ("Mmm-hmm," says every woman in America, again.) I can work like the dickens to lose weight over the course of a week, and gain it all back over the weekend. 

(And both of these problems seem to be getting worse as I age.)

I've also learned some of my own faults that are contributing to my difficulty in losing weight. Here are a few of them:

(1) When it comes to food, I have an innately disordered appetite. Overeating is automatic for me - moderation is intensely difficult. And I know that this is inborn for me because my parents have told me that as soon as I was old enough to order my own food in a restaurant, I went straight to the adult menu - I never ordered from the child-sized menu, even as a young child. 

A great book that outlines the differences between people who find moderation easy and natural, and people for whom overeating is automatic and instinctual, is Bright Lines Eating by Susan Peirce Thompson. This book helped to relieve a bit of the guilt of being someone to whom moderation does not and probably will never come easily, and also helped me to see the innate differences between people like my husband's family, who find it easy to say "Oh, I took three bites of this luscious chocolate cake, and I just can't eat another bite, I guess I'd better throw the rest in the trash" (really!) and someone like me, who eats a piece of chocolate cake and now has to fight a roaring desire to devour the entire cake. I now know that gluttony is a battle that I'll always have to fight, and it's helpful to know that this fight is inborn and not just a sign of my moral failings. We all have sins to which we are prone, and this is one of mine.

(2) Secondly, I realized that I've fallen into bad habits since I've been on my own (so, twenty years). The philosophy of "I'm an adult, therefore I can, therefore I will," does not translate into good end-results when applied to desserts, snacks, and treats. I'm having to re-learn a better philosophy, "I'm an adult, therefore I can, therefore I will decide if it's wise or not and will act accordingly." 

(3) I realized when reading Trim Healthy Mama that I have another really bad habit, and that is constant nibbling. This habit can really fly under the radar, and it certainly did with me. Nibbling when preparing food, when serving food, when clearing away and putting away - it can really add up. I've really been working on this problem, and it's a tough one to tackle.

(4) On a side note, my exercise life is non-existent. I love to do ballet, but have neither the time nor the money; I love to walk, but never do because I always end up with a flock of children around me who prevent any serious exercise. I don't worry too much about this, because I am a mama who is constantly active within the home - I'm not stuck in a screen-based job, and I am quite active. However, I am also quite out of shape from a strength or stamina perspective - any strenuous exertion reminds me quite quickly how out of training I am. Again, it's not a big issue to me right now because I do not have the time to remedy it. But it is something to keep on the radar.

One method that I have found works for weight loss is fasting. I've found this quite liberating, and I'm working on incorporating fasting into my life. (Read more with Fast Like a Girl by Dr. Mindy Pelz.)

The downsides of fasting have been as been that (1) it is quite easy to overeat following a fasting period and thus regain all of the weight lost, and (2) I find fasting nearly impossible on days when I am super-stressed (which is quite often).

I also find it quite amusing that the only way that I've found to actually lose weight successfully is to completely stop eating.

As a 20-year aficionado of food and health sciences, I am also aware that there is a myriad of reasons why we moderns are having such trouble with our weight. There are massive economic and environmental causative factors that are creating the perfect storm in terms of weight problems and chronic illness. I think that I could easily list a hundred reasons behind all of this. Plastics, screens, antibiotics overuse, various birth practices, chemical food additives, fast food, social programming (like the "you should snack all the time" movement from the 1980s), etc. The cards are stacked against us in so many ways.

Still, I want to give it my best shot. And hopefully the disciplines that I am beginning to learn now will have a positive impact. 

I'll check back in and let you know.

And please, if you have any amazing weight loss tips, let me know!